What do you think about adoption?
There have been many myths and misunderstandings about adoption over the years. We want to give you the truth about the option of adoption, and offer referrals. Depending on your circumstances, adoption may be the perfect solution for your future.
Answering a few adoption myths:
Myth #1 My child will hate me if I choose adoption.
Research shows that by choosing an open adoption plan, adopted children “better understand the reasons for their adoption” and have more “positive feelings toward their birth mother.”
Myth #2 I’ll be giving my baby away to strangers
No woman chooses to give her baby away, especially not to strangers. You are the one to choose the adoptive couple for your child. It takes time, but you will find the perfect family. Through bios, photos, background checks, home studies, and applications, you’ll know them inside and out…just like family.
Myth #3 I’ll regret this decision for the rest of my life
Sometimes the hardest decisions we have to make are the best decisions of our life. Choosing adoption is hard. Knowing your child is loved, happy, safe, and has a life of opportunity provides peace that you made the best decision for their life.
Types Of Adoption
Open adoption is the most common plan today. It gives both the birth mother and the adoptive family open access to one another. You exchange personal information such as full names, addresses, phone numbers, etc. You can communicate freely, set up visits, and build a wonderful relationship with everyone. You’ll have the opportunity to know your child and they’ll be able to have a relationship with you.
A closed adoption means the birth mother stays completely anonymous. After the adoption is finalized, the child’s original birth certificate is sealed so your full name and any identifying information remain private. Some women feel this type of adoption helps them move on with their lives. It can also be necessary if there’s concern about the safety of your child due to a toxic relationship.
This adoption plan is a mix of both open and closed adoption. Both the birth mother and adoptive parents share first names but the adoption agency handles all communication between them. It offers a little bit more privacy but still gives you the information you desire.
Is adoption right for you?
Only you know your situation and what’s best for you and the future of your child. None of the above adoption plans is better than the other. You choose the one that’s right for you. More than anything, remember, you will always be a part of your child’s life story. No one can take away the fact that you are a mother.
We are available to talk with you about adoption and offer referrals to reputable agencies to work with. Like all of your options, adoption is a difficult choice. Take your time and get as much information as possible. We want to help you make a confident decision.